My Philosophy

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Psychology is not only my field of practice, but something I feel very close to. For me it is how many feel about religion or spirituality. Being in the field of psychology for over 8 years has brought me in contact with people across varied age-groups, background and culture. I have had in-depth conversations with each individual which has helped me gain insight into how we think, what feeds our thinking pattern and how this pattern affects our overall adjustment in life. It is very common, for example, to hear people say “I don’t know why I am feeling so down today”, even more common to see people get angry over seemingly trivial things like when waiting for the elevator or driving a car. Where does the unexplained sadness, anger and other negative expressions of emotions come from? People often attribute it to one’s personality or nature. However, a great many times these emotions stem from unchecked and faulty thought patterns.

Most of us make innumerable errors in thinking, and we are usually unaware of them. Faulty thought patterns can cause a great deal of emotional distress, depression, anxiety, anger issues and unrealistic expectations from self, people and life in general. Usually people start noticing a change in themselves when their thought patterns start affecting their feelings, emotions, relationships and job performance. However, they may be unable to reverse their thinking errors and are often afraid to seek help from a psychologist for fear of social stigma, looking weak, or even a misapprehension of what a psychologist is or does.

It is painful to see clients who have wasted years suffering before seeking help. It is difficult for any mental health professional to reverse damages that were caused over a span of years in a matter of a few sessions. A failure in an exam, for example, may lead to negative view of self and loss in confidence. The individual may start rebuking themselves for not clearing the exam and may start doubting their capabilities. They may isolate themselves from social situations and even family members because they feel ashamed to have not cleared the exam. There can also be a deep anger against themselves which can lead to depression, subsequently causing maladjustment, a general state of anxiety, feelings of worthlessness and even anger towards significant others. Faulty thought patterns can thus transform a conquerable situation into a seemingly impossible one where the individual drowns themselves in feelings of sadness, shame and anger instead of preparing for the exam afresh. He/she may suffer for years in these feelings, and by the time they receive help, the faulty thoughts causing all the turmoil are deep-rooted in the individual.

Mental health and hygiene are very much similar to physical health and hygiene, and require awareness, effort and discipline. We try hard to stay fit physically. We do regular workouts, follow diet plans, eat healthy and take vitamins and supplements. We sign up for yearly blood work, check-ups and screen ourselves for early recognition of different physical ailments. We read articles on physical health and share beneficial inputs with our loved ones. If we put even a tenth of the same effort in improving our mental health, much suffering in our lives could be reduced, both mental and physical. Awareness and early recognition of disruption in mental health is an important key in reversing any anomaly just as is in the case of physical health. Introspection, or examination of one’s thoughts and feelings is an integral part of our daily mental health regime. It is a simple technique that can be learned easily with the help of a psychologist. One can easily recognize and consequently rectify thinking errors on their own. I consider therapy successful if an individual comes to me needing my help and leaves not needing to see me again. I strive to create awareness in each of us about mental health and reduce the social stigma that causes much distress to us and our loved ones. The task in hand may seem beyond the bounds of possibility, but there is hope and help!

We all need help sometimes to embrace changes. And when you do, you need an empathetic listener who understands you and helps you discover your path. Please browse through the Frequently Asked Questions section for more information or contact me for a consultation.

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